being your own best friend
throwing yet another drop in the bucket of "bearblogger learns basic life skill and writes as if its a profound discovery". jokes aside i really enjoy reading these types of posts because it reminds me that there's so many perspectives. You may see this post as a version of your own self-discovery, or one that you might make in the future. Further, we can all celebrate when someone discovers something that ultimately might change their life for the better! it's pretty awesome.
Anyways, enough meta talk.
I was watching this Core-A Gaming video "How to Reduce Salt", which talks about the mechanics of getting "salty" (i.e. getting mad when you lose) and how to deal with it.
One of the points was around treating yourself like your own best friend (at 17:34). Gerald talks of the "Double Standard Technique", which is summarized as:
The double standard technique in CBT involves treating yourself with the same compassion and understanding you'd offer a friend, challenging harsh self-criticism and promoting self-compassion.
So now, when I hear the harsh inner critic's voice, i can ask myself: would I treat my best friend this way? (The answer has always been no). This visualization reminds myself to show myself some self-compassion.
anyways thanks for reading this. we are bettering ourselves one step at a time, fellow bear users